|Does this sound weird to anyone else:
||[Oct. 28th, 2005|09:36 am]
I was on the first of my buses to get to work. I hear the tinny strains of my cell phone. I see an area code that I know I should recognize. I hit the green button and ask: "Hello?" at least 3 times. Then I hang up. Something nags at me. I call the number back and get an outgoing greeting from a machine or voice mail that I don't immediately recognize. I hang up, figuring the caller had a wrong number.
A minute later someone calls. The caller is from that same area code. There is a cadence and weird syntax to his speech that is familiar. Then he asks: "Do you know S___?" "This is her aunt. J__, is that you?" (J being her husband) "Yeah. Hey, Aunt Lula. S__ is sleeping. I'll have her call you later." "Oh. Okay. Talk to you later."
I sit with this a while. Now, normally this would pass by me. I had a weird moment with my niece at the family reunion, though. She was out by the pool, looking sad. I sat next to her and asked what was going on.
"J__ was making me feel bad because I had MD (my mom) watch the kids for a minute. It's not like we do this all the time! And earlier he said I was showing off because we're here with my family..."
"SHOWING OFF?!" Then I calmed myself. No need to (figuratively) show my ass at a reunion (This is a laugh as it can be like the biannual exposing of the buttocks). I just told her: "Well that doesn't sound right. I hope this is a one-time issue. He can watch the kids, too. They're HIS, too. Look, if anything gets out of hand, you call me, okay? Call me or your Aunt M or your Uncles. ANYTHING gets out of hand, you CALL, alright?"
She agreed. But fast-forward up to this morning. I have questions:
1. If she was sleeping, who called me the first time?
2. If she called me, how was she asleep two minutes after calling me?
Anyway. I called my brother B. I was going to call my sister, but she just had child number four and is still in the hospital (Yeah. I'm an aunt for the 15th time. Hey: does anyone, by the way, know a pretty girls name that starts with A that might go with the middle name Layla?). Now my brother B is fabulous. He looks after everyone. He has a little hanging air-freshener thing in his car that says: "A Father's Love Knows No Bounds". He means this. He means this in every way possible. He looks after his nieces and nephews better than their fathers do. So, I called him. I told him the deal. He said: "Let me drop L'il J at Day Care. I'll call and find out what's up". Now, if there is anything wrong, I would NOT want to be my niece's husband (My brother had her when I was 14 in case you're wondering how I have a niece that's married). It would not be pretty. And I might like to ride down to Memphis with him and watch and get a few kicks in myself. If there's nothing wrong, I don't want to be an instigator and scare my niece from sharing with me.
I just want to get opinions. Was I right to call in the cavalry (being my brother)? Has anyone had close experience with abusive relationships? Was I right that this guy's behavior at the reunion and the weird-ness of the calls this morning are red flags? I'll let you know what I hear when my brother calls me back.